There are times when we need to apologize or forgive someone else, but regret about the past prevents us from moving forward, healing ourselves, and making better decisions. Fear or anxiety about the future can keep us stuck in a similar way.
There is value in exploring how our past affects us today, as long as we are not immobilized by it. The ways we learned to cope in the past allowed us to survive a crisis, but when the crisis has passed these same coping methods can work against us.
The more we live in the present, the less our regrets and fears keep us stuck in unproductive thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. When we stay present-focused and true to ourselves, we can make progress, heal, and find peace.
My job is to help clients progress and attain goals—their goals, not mine. This is sometimes referred to as “meeting clients where they are.” That means that I won’t try to force you to say or do anything that doesn’t feel right for you. I will help you to look at situations in new ways, clarify ideas, and invite you to try new things.
Counselors and clients are partners in that we are working to achieve the same ends. If you come to counseling because you’re confused and not sure of your goals, that’s okay, too.
If desired, I will incorporate your spiritual or religious beliefs into the counseling experience. Every person has physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual aspects and I believe that a holistic approach—considering every part of ourselves—is most effective. If you are uncomfortable sharing your religious or spiritual beliefs your wishes will, of course, be honored.
I employ a variety of techniques and tools in my counseling approach. The individual client’s needs and desires determine which are used. Some focus on improving coping skills or ways to change old, ineffective thought patterns, while others target feelings and experiences.
I may ask if you are interested in trying EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing), which can resolve emotions about distressing past experiences. EMDR’s effectiveness has been studied extensively and has helped many of my clients in the past.
Problems Addressed in Counseling
While this list is not exhaustive, some of the areas my clients have addressed include:
- Personal growth
- Trauma and Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder
- Grief and loss
- Life transitions
- Spiritual problems
- Pre/post bariatric surgery
“Thank you for always making me feel safe in expressing my feelings. You have been a support to me throughout several life-changing events, and for that, you will always have a special place in my heart. I hope that you realize the importance of having someone like you to turn to in times of need. Even though it is your job to make others feel comfortable in their quest for clarity, I want you to know that you have exceeded all standards in assisting me on my path.”
“Tracey has helped me through many years, providing a stabilizing force, new insights, and helpful advice when I have needed it. She has never failed to help me see a new angle of a situation or come up with a new solution to a problem I’ve had. She is exceptionally good at reading people and understanding them at a deeper level that enables her to see what is really going on underneath the surface.”
“I was just compelled to write, having a thousand things to say. I appreciate you valuing me and that is one of the reasons I am still here. I don’t want to die today. And I thank you for being more than persistent to show me that I’m a L’Oreal commercial—I am worth it! Thank you from the bottom of my heart. I guess it is true that people pass through one’s life for reasons and I am grateful that you are passing through mine.”
“Thanks a thousand times over for being a big part of my transition from the land of the misfit toys to the land of many joys!”
“Words cannot express my sincere and profound gratitude for Tracey’s heart and ears over the past year. She has a unique gift for making people feel comfortable and secure while in her care.”
“I have dealt with many therapists in the more than 20 years that I have been employing the help of professional counselors. Tracey McCarthy provides the ideal balance of both professionalism and humanity. She naturally creates a welcoming and safe environment and is able to utilize a wide range of therapeutic techniques tailored to the individual needs of her client. Easy to talk to and perceptive to the needs of others, Tracey provides a unique opportunity to go far beyond the basic “couch and note pad” of so many other therapists to a space where one is able to open the doors of the inner self where realization and genuine healing may take place. Each experience I have with Tracey leaves me feeling far more balanced and at peace than before.”
“Many years ago, Tracey helped me through a very difficult time; the breakup of a relationship. I still remember the compassion she showed then, and despite the passage of time, I can hear the sympathy in her voice over many sessions. She provided me with advice that I continue to put in practice today, and I will always be grateful.”
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4373 Old William Penn Highway
Murrysville, PA 15668